Female ancestry & embodied healing
Grandmother literally means “great mother”, which is an homage to the Great Mother ancestrality we have in our DNA. The homage to the great mother is in our languages, in our habitual patterns of daily life, and even in the most uncommon ways. If you smoke tobacco, you’re connecting to the Gods in an ancestral way, if you drink coffee or chocolate milk, you’re performing a sacred ceremony, and so many more habits we don’t even think twice about.
The teachings were not lost in time, but we are just not aware of them.
Healing ancestrality is probably one of the most arduous tasks of any person, primarily women, who have had so much to worry about in the past millennia. One major example is the fear of persecution, which leads us to the old witches burned in the fire pits for being too connected to the Earth and revering the Old Gods, instead of the new religions. Fear from escaping is a big one amongst both women and men, escaping someone in your dreams is your subconscious mind healing the persecution your ancestors faced.
A lot of what we heal doesn’t belong to us personally, it belongs to the collective and lineage we are born into. When we have had deep trauma, we know it’s intergenerational and we focus on healing our part, but if we focus on the ancestrality of it, we might help future generations to be more aware and conscious of how to be without trauma, making better decisions — it all does not come down to education, there is a lot going on beneath the surface.
A lot of what we heal does not belong to us. Certain fears are ancestral fears, such as ruin or hunger, most often from ancestors who went through the perils and horrors of depressions and wars. So, when we heal that, we are helping new generations to not face what they faced.
We all know that healing intergenerational trauma brings us steps closer to a saner and more balanced society — starting where it hurts might be one of the most difficult things. My ancestry is both black and Jewish because the country my parents were born in and the names they carry, reclaims multiculturality and genocidal colonialism, the names I carry tell the story of escaping, of rising above, of being part of a larger whole of men and women who strived to be good ancestors. So in looking at it, I can find the multiplicity of what happened before with my ancestors, and the history that comes down to it — from important characters in our history to farmers and ex-slaves, to escaping war, it comes down to how we meet ourselves in the midst of finding our own roots.
So to embody healing in these terms, we must find how to fit in our lineage and own that place, in terms of my ancestry and my embodied healing, I can say it’s difficult to find fault in intergenerational trauma — it didn’t start with us. So that brings an enormous sense of forgiveness and letting go.
Ancestry means that we carry within us all the information and wisdom, knowledge to thrive in our current circumstances, which means the only excuse to not heal is not knowing about this: it didn’t start with you, but the ones after you don’t need to deal with it. It’s our birthright and responsibility to heal the most of what we can, so we can face the most beautiful life full of possibilities.